I would add in that it’s hard as an individual man who has not sexually assaulted or raped anybody to not feel somewhat targeted or falsely accused by these things.
I am on the victim’s side.
Rapists and sexual assaulters should suffer every indignity necessary to restore the balance of what they have done, but it’s also understandable that innocent people who get caught up in these shotgun blast social media responses take personal offense at it.
It feels like being accused of something heinous and it’s normal and natural to be indignant when you are falsely accused of a crime.
At the same time, though, for me, a man to get into this conversation as if I were somehow a part of it to begin with also causes me to step on the rightful hurt feelings of people who have experienced sexual assault or some sort of gender-based trauma.
It’s essentially impossible to thread the needle on this.
Hey, individual man that hasn’t sexually assaulted or raped anybody here;
I do not feel targeted by these kinds of posts. Then again, I’ve also not been accused of sexually assaulting or raping anybody, so it’s hard to understand why I would feel targeted by this post at all.
These posts are clearly neither speaking about me, or to me. I can listen to what women are saying to each other though. Given about half the people I know are women, there’s value in listening.
I would add in that it’s hard as an individual man who has not sexually assaulted or raped anybody to not feel somewhat targeted or falsely accused by these things.
I am on the victim’s side.
Rapists and sexual assaulters should suffer every indignity necessary to restore the balance of what they have done, but it’s also understandable that innocent people who get caught up in these shotgun blast social media responses take personal offense at it.
It feels like being accused of something heinous and it’s normal and natural to be indignant when you are falsely accused of a crime.
At the same time, though, for me, a man to get into this conversation as if I were somehow a part of it to begin with also causes me to step on the rightful hurt feelings of people who have experienced sexual assault or some sort of gender-based trauma.
It’s essentially impossible to thread the needle on this.
Hey, individual man that hasn’t sexually assaulted or raped anybody here;
I do not feel targeted by these kinds of posts. Then again, I’ve also not been accused of sexually assaulting or raping anybody, so it’s hard to understand why I would feel targeted by this post at all.
These posts are clearly neither speaking about me, or to me. I can listen to what women are saying to each other though. Given about half the people I know are women, there’s value in listening.