If you find one, you find a group cos like attracts attracts like.

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    When I’m having beers with my buddies we mostly talk about sports, sometimes work and random other bullshit like movies and such.

    It’s actually very rare for dudes to discuss felonies they’ve committed.

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      And if they do discuss it it’s because it was decades ago, nearly everyone involved is now old as fuck or dead, and it’s always murder.

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      I think the sign is pointing to women’s claims of sexual assault not being believed by default and men’s claims of innocence being trusted by default.

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      Guy: talks about how unproblematic he and his buddies are.

      Me: Checks inside.

      It’s all him puffing himself up about shit he doesn’t know about and bitching about the woke left.

      I’m sure you’re very good at detecting dangerous men in your family and friend group.

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        Do you honestly think men come with tell-tale signs of being a rapist or a sexual assaulter? I knew my best friend for half a decade, and despite his left-leaning views and overall progressiveness, he still did some shit to me–another gay man–while I slept and without my consent.

        I mean, should we apply your logic to sexual assault victims, too? “You should’ve known! Didn’t you hang out with him all week?” Of course not, people mask, and there’s noise in trying to make that judgment. What is this line of thinking, honestly?

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          So much writing when you obviously didn’t read it. I’m making fun of a chud for acting like they’d even care if a man seemed dangerous. Yes, conservative men are significantly less likely to be conscious of rape culture. No, being into socialism doesn’t inocculate you from being a bad person.

          You guys are so committed to delivering the redditor experience that I’m gonna ignore you now.

          Edit: Rape culture depends on men not challenging the overtly harmful values and attitudes of other men. It persists exactly because men don’t hold their friends accountable for their behaviour. Men are not taught to identify this behaviour effectively and are statistically unlikely to challenge it as they fear social ostracization (especially if they subscribe to hegemonic masculinity willingly) Want to make this clear in case there is one person on here who isn’t a smug incel because of my nagging sense of responsibility in the misinformation cesspit this sub obviously is.

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            You’re making fun of someone under a false premise, and that’s my entire point.

            I’m gonna ignore you now.

            Please do. Block if you can find the button.