If you find one, you find a group cos like attracts attracts like.

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      I can “know” a hundred men and I probably know a rapist, but I don’t know that they’re a rapist.

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      Only? That’s a disturbingly large percentage imo, it’s around 1 in 33. Think of how many male friends, relatives, colleagues, and other acquaintances you’ve had in your life, it’s likely way higher than that. We all likely know rapists, we just don’t realise exactly who they are.

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        Yes, and not every rapist is a serial rapist who goes around preying on everyone he can get his hands on. I think those guys are a minority within a minority. More commonly may be guys who did it once and later regretted it and never did it again, or in between (went through a phase in college but later got married and settled down).

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          There’s also the fucked up part where people can rape without understanding. I was raped by my high school boyfriend, and I didn’t view it as rape until I got further education in college. I had been under the impression that consenting to sex meant I was consenting to all sex acts and thought I couldn’t revoke my consent.

          The church literally taught this fucked up version of consent to children.

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        Yeah I’m extremely sceptical of any survey that relies on self-reporting. Especially when you were admitting to a crime.

        What a crap methodology.

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      If you’re getting it from here, I think you misread it. It says that 3% of men have experienced attempted/completed rape, not done it themselves. This study suggests that 10% of men commit it in college though, which would be worse. Most of them aren’t serial rapists though and hopefully feel guilt, so my guess is that they wouldn’t want to admit it to anyone that knows them

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      Jesus Christ 3% of men are rapists? That’s horrifyingly high. I knew I was terrified of men but I wasn’t scared enough.