This question is mainly targeted to women, but anybody is free to answer.

I was browsing somewhere, either here or Reddit, and came across a post that was mocking the types that demand too much from a woman’s physical appearance. I was reading through the comments, and while I can’t remember the exact phrasing from the one that caught my eye, it more or less read something like this:

“‘she must be skinny, have an hourglass figure, like anime, know how to cook and take care of the home, want kids, and be good in bed’ meanwhile he’s just a guy”

Likely clearly I can tell that this isn’t targeting me specifically since I can tell these are gross and entitled demands, but the phrase “just a guy” really has me wondering what that exactly means. It’s so vague, and as someone who’s trying to sort out what stands out to people in the dating scene, I do worry about being “just a guy”.

What does being “just a guy” encompass, and what is it that differentiates a guy from that? I’m personally trying to work on myself a bit more, but I still fear that possibility of never standing out to someone.

  • Plebcouncilman@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    I’m a man but for me a guy is someone who is unremarkable at everything. Not especially good looking, not especially in good shape, not accomplished in a field or financially successful. Just a guy.

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      3 days ago

      I thought the question was about “a guy,” not a perfect description of me.

      Lol :P