I’m a woman and certainly got it. Some from my parents but mostly from society as a whole. We were all taught politeness but it was only reinforced for the girls, except for token rules like who opens doors or walks through first, or boys being shamed for hitting a girl. Which implies it’s okay for them to hit other boys even if it’s not spelled out, doesn’t it? In fact ,most of the time these expectations aren’t even spelled out as such, but for instance are there even rules for girls about hitting? Or is it just assumed that girls don’t hit, because they’re good girls or ladies, or if they’re bad and do hit, it won’t really hurt anyone because they’re weak. Both of which are toxic.
Tbf, I’m pretty ancient. But behavior considered assertive and ambitious in men is still seen as bitchy and pushy in women, especially things like seeking a raise or promotion or presidency.
Also. You all know better than to piss off the people who prepare and serve your food. How much more aren’t you going to anger the person about to rip off your pubic hair? They’ve literally got you by the short and curlies!
I think I must have grew up with women; have been around women; and raised my girls; that never heard of this women should be polite in society stuff.
There’s no way any of them would just accept something they were against.
Is that common elsewhere?
I’m a woman and certainly got it. Some from my parents but mostly from society as a whole. We were all taught politeness but it was only reinforced for the girls, except for token rules like who opens doors or walks through first, or boys being shamed for hitting a girl. Which implies it’s okay for them to hit other boys even if it’s not spelled out, doesn’t it? In fact ,most of the time these expectations aren’t even spelled out as such, but for instance are there even rules for girls about hitting? Or is it just assumed that girls don’t hit, because they’re good girls or ladies, or if they’re bad and do hit, it won’t really hurt anyone because they’re weak. Both of which are toxic.
Tbf, I’m pretty ancient. But behavior considered assertive and ambitious in men is still seen as bitchy and pushy in women, especially things like seeking a raise or promotion or presidency.
Also. You all know better than to piss off the people who prepare and serve your food. How much more aren’t you going to anger the person about to rip off your pubic hair? They’ve literally got you by the short and curlies!