In moderation has eased itself into the lexicon of all polite conversation when your trying to get someone to stop doing a bad thing, but you don’t want to scare them with the prospect of totally stopping yet.

  • Drinking… in moderation
  • Smoking… in moderation
  • Recreational Drugs… in moderation

Or when it comes from people in authority it just means “I’m not ready to have this fight, so I’ll just say in moderation as a catch all so you wont get mad at me”

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    but you don’t want to scare them with the prospect of totally stopping yet.

    That implies there is a desire to stop, which doesn’t have to be the case.

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      The person saying “in moderation” has the desire to stop, but they want the subject to be receptive to a baby step to “moderate” before even introducing the idea of stopping.

      Totally agreed the subject usually has no desire to stop.

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        The person saying “in moderation” has the desire to stop, but they want the subject to be receptive to a baby step to “moderate” before even introducing the idea of stopping.

        Again, this doesn’t have to be the case.

        I knew quite a few people that tended to drink too much and had to be reminded to drink in moderation from time to time. But not for a second did I want them to stop completely.

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          But not for a second did I want them to stop completely.

          Interesting, why not?

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            Because I still wanted to hang out with them and people that don’t drink at all are usually boring and obnoxious.

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              Ugh Don’t you just hate it when my friends lose their vices and try to be better. Ugh they get so annoying and boring. Why do I even hang out with them. They keep trying to rub it in everyone’s faces. /s

              It really does become a crutch though… which sucks since there comes a point where your muscles get weak. I say ditch those instruments and live as golden gods. But in moderation :)