I recently came to the conclusion that I was definitely supposed to be a woman (yay me). But I’ve spent the first half of my life trying to suppress that thought, that I hadn’t put much thought into what I’d like to be called.
I’m trying to find a name which would suit a relatively butch lesbian with a mischievous personality who was born on terf island to boomer parents in the 80s but also works in Scandinavia. My given name has a female version, but it sounds weird for a Britt.
What made you settle on your names?
Edit: thanks for all the replies. I’m going to try out Kara for a while and see how it resonates. Feel free to suggest similar names or potential middle names (which absolutely should not start with k, by the way).
I use a modified version of the feminine form of my given name. I spent a long time thinking about it but in the end it felt right.
not me but a high school friend transitioned lately. we all kinda knew this from high school though she hadn’t come out them. friends there used to call her with a feminine name which she liked. she took that name :)
All my highschool nicknames were the product of bullying :(
oh, I’m sorry :(
Hi, I was also born in the UK in the 80s, but I don’t live there any more. Did you read any Enid Blyton growing up? I always liked George (Georgina) from the Famous Five books. Perhaps shortening it to Gina instead would work for you.
How did I choose my name? Er, my wife suggested it and I thought “yup, that’ll do” :3 There aren’t a huge number of names that work in both English and Japanese.
Yeah, I’m not asking my partner. She’ll suggest a bunch of lotr names.
My chosen name, Tess, was literally picked from a variable name from de-obfuscated Minecraft code over a decade ago. It said
Tesselator tess = ...
or something like that. And I thought “that sounds neat”. Some time after, I found out it’s also a real name used by real people in the real world.holy cow you brought MCP mappings into real life, the matrix is leaking
Name was honestly not that difficult in the grand scheme of things. Like yeah it took months and I was on hrt before I decided on a name but I already had an idea.
I just took my old initials and found names that came from a similar part of the world. From there I slimmed the list down based on their meanings/translations. I do think that if I had done anything different I’d have a different middle name just because the meaning is kinda an insult even if it’s not directed at me. I think that takes power away from the process.
I asked my brother what his name would be if he were a girl and he didn’t have a solid answer. He then returned the question and I realised I did and I was 100% sure about it which I did not actually see coming.
Thought it would be annoying to completely change names but i also dont like the feminine versions of my name, so i just made one up.
No one can spell it proper, but i love my new namejust stole it from one of my friends
poor girl is now left unnamed…
I’m half considering stealing Joanne from the f**King terf. It’d be the ultimate act of trolling.
I have yet to find a name, but I’m considering feminine or androgynous variants of my birth name that sound vaguely Japanese. I ran them by my ex and he had no thoughts, so I guess I only selected options that sound normal for a millennial.
I asked my parents what names they were thinking of before the genital reveal and just picked one. I think the limited choices helped me actually commit to one.
Not really an option when I’m so close to inheriting a house from a man who undoubtedly beats his meat to a picture of jk Rowling.
Oh, then just go with “Joanne” then! Easy win!
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I just spat coffee. But… That would be hilarious…
I wanted a powerful name to strike fear in the hearts of the people that wronged me.
My girl!
Fuck yeah
Bärbel the destroyer?
I also went on those “baby name by year” sites for my birth year, but I purposefully went to the 100-200ish range since I wanted a name that wouldn’t stick out too much, but also wouldn’t be so common I’d know or meet a bunch of other people that shared it.
I also had a few other things that would be nice but not necessary that I wanted the name to have, so when reading down the list I had a smaller number of names to consider. One just jumped out at me though, so I tried it out for a bit and ended up sticking with it.
I wanted to keep my initials for practical reasons. And when in an unrelated conversation the name Tamsin came up I was just smitten with it :)
It sounds playful, is a feminine version of my birth name and doesn’t end with an ‘a’, which for some reason is something that I find important.My middle name is a straight up female version of the old one with zero creativity :)
I picked a name that has the same first letter as my deadname (though it’s not as dead as I’d like it to be just yet), because it’s a less common letter, and I like that. It’s also the name of my many-times great grandmother, which I think is cool. It is the first one I tried, but it’s felt right and no other names appealed to me as much, so I’m content!
Started with the name my ex think suits me. Sounded too gender neutral and common. Tried bunch of names I can think of who were my transition goals. How did I tried? Used that name on food order and also imagined how it would feel like to get referred to that name.
Didn’t like any of those either so I looked up list of woman’s name. And chose something unique (at least in English speaking country) and has meaning that I feel very connected to.
Take your time