I recently came to the conclusion that I was definitely supposed to be a woman (yay me). But I’ve spent the first half of my life trying to suppress that thought, that I hadn’t put much thought into what I’d like to be called.

I’m trying to find a name which would suit a relatively butch lesbian with a mischievous personality who was born on terf island to boomer parents in the 80s but also works in Scandinavia. My given name has a female version, but it sounds weird for a Britt.

What made you settle on your names?

Edit: thanks for all the replies. I’m going to try out Kara for a while and see how it resonates. Feel free to suggest similar names or potential middle names (which absolutely should not start with k, by the way).

  • 2d4_bears@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    19 hours ago

    I use a modified version of the feminine form of my given name. I spent a long time thinking about it but in the end it felt right.

  • serenissi@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    not me but a high school friend transitioned lately. we all kinda knew this from high school though she hadn’t come out them. friends there used to call her with a feminine name which she liked. she took that name :)

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    22 hours ago

    Hi, I was also born in the UK in the 80s, but I don’t live there any more. Did you read any Enid Blyton growing up? I always liked George (Georgina) from the Famous Five books. Perhaps shortening it to Gina instead would work for you.

    How did I choose my name? Er, my wife suggested it and I thought “yup, that’ll do” :3 There aren’t a huge number of names that work in both English and Japanese.

  • copygirl@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    My chosen name, Tess, was literally picked from a variable name from de-obfuscated Minecraft code over a decade ago. It said Tesselator tess = ... or something like that. And I thought “that sounds neat”. Some time after, I found out it’s also a real name used by real people in the real world.

  • RymrgandsDaughter@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Name was honestly not that difficult in the grand scheme of things. Like yeah it took months and I was on hrt before I decided on a name but I already had an idea.

    I just took my old initials and found names that came from a similar part of the world. From there I slimmed the list down based on their meanings/translations. I do think that if I had done anything different I’d have a different middle name just because the meaning is kinda an insult even if it’s not directed at me. I think that takes power away from the process.

  • Delilah (She/Her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    I asked my brother what his name would be if he were a girl and he didn’t have a solid answer. He then returned the question and I realised I did and I was 100% sure about it which I did not actually see coming.

  • pruneaue [she/they]@infosec.pub
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    1 day ago

    Thought it would be annoying to completely change names but i also dont like the feminine versions of my name, so i just made one up.
    No one can spell it proper, but i love my new name

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    I have yet to find a name, but I’m considering feminine or androgynous variants of my birth name that sound vaguely Japanese. I ran them by my ex and he had no thoughts, so I guess I only selected options that sound normal for a millennial.

  • Nat (she/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    I asked my parents what names they were thinking of before the genital reveal and just picked one. I think the limited choices helped me actually commit to one.

  • WrittenInRed (She/Her)@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    I also went on those “baby name by year” sites for my birth year, but I purposefully went to the 100-200ish range since I wanted a name that wouldn’t stick out too much, but also wouldn’t be so common I’d know or meet a bunch of other people that shared it.

    I also had a few other things that would be nice but not necessary that I wanted the name to have, so when reading down the list I had a smaller number of names to consider. One just jumped out at me though, so I tried it out for a bit and ended up sticking with it.

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    I wanted to keep my initials for practical reasons. And when in an unrelated conversation the name Tamsin came up I was just smitten with it :)
    It sounds playful, is a feminine version of my birth name and doesn’t end with an ‘a’, which for some reason is something that I find important.

    My middle name is a straight up female version of the old one with zero creativity :)

  • compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I picked a name that has the same first letter as my deadname (though it’s not as dead as I’d like it to be just yet), because it’s a less common letter, and I like that. It’s also the name of my many-times great grandmother, which I think is cool. It is the first one I tried, but it’s felt right and no other names appealed to me as much, so I’m content!

  • romanticremedy@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Started with the name my ex think suits me. Sounded too gender neutral and common. Tried bunch of names I can think of who were my transition goals. How did I tried? Used that name on food order and also imagined how it would feel like to get referred to that name.

    Didn’t like any of those either so I looked up list of woman’s name. And chose something unique (at least in English speaking country) and has meaning that I feel very connected to.

    Take your time