hey. it occurs to me too late that you might have taken exception to the tone of my previous remark. i had intended it to be genuinely helpful but im afraid it came out as world weary and, well, a little unpleasant. and i didn’t actually offer you any recovery resource. I just basically said “you got a problem lol gl” which is an enormous dickhead move in retrospect.

here. check out https://smartrecovery.org/

it’s a science-based alternative to the twelve step programs you might be hesitant to join due to their religious infuence. they have lots of in-person meetings and online too. i personally get more value out of in-person but everyone has their own preference and it’s nice to be able to make a meeting wherever I am.

the general philosophy can be summed up, “you have a choice.” it teaches that unpleasant emotions like anxiety are generally transient and offers strategies for coping with urges and building a balanced lifestyle. it offers a toolkit and an adaptable method.

it does focus generally speaking on substance addiction, but recognizes that addiction takes many forms. sex addiction, gambling, shopping, intimacy, trichotillomania, and yes, phone addiction. the most recent addiction to our meeting group is a young trans woman who struggles with self-harm urges. addiction is not something to be ashamed of, and it’s more common than you think.

please check it out. you don’t have to live in service to that anxiety.