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cross-posted from: https://reddthat.com/post/46807163
Since this post posted in /c/womensstuff, a community that prohibits male participation, showed up on the front page of All I’m cross-posting it to a space where men can chime in and answer/discuss it freely.
No. I’m kind of an asshole who also works in a sector that is shared with all variety of people and often work side by side with people who ignorant people might call “sensitive”. I really am not careful at all. Sometimes I ask questions I really shouldn’t point blank because I’m dumb (is it safe to be trans here? Do you get harassed?). I’ve deadnamed and misgendered by accident. I don’t get the vibe that people want to make a big deal out of these social faux pas unless you seem malicious. I’ve fucked up a trillion times apologize and move on. Now I have friends who I’ve accidentally insulted calling me up to hang out sometimes. It’s fine. Just don’t be malicious. Most people who complain about walking on eggshells aren’t just not careful like me, but unwilling to change or learn.
I’ll tell you a secret, no matter where you work you need to be a little careful what you say and how you phrase it but generally you can treat it all the same. Your personality isn’t the problem, your biases, your willingness to learn and adapt, and your attitude are.