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Screenshot of a Tumblr post by nongunktional:

when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

    • MotoAsh@lemmy.worldEnglish
      5·
      3 days ago

      The part where that is not at all what so ever in the top five primary driving factors of the problem.

      • deaf_fish@midwest.socialEnglish
        33·
        3 days ago

        Can you clarify what the problem is? I am unsure because this thread was initially about how homelessness is the same thing as being single.

        Is the problem that people lack social skills so it is hard for them to get a partner? If that is the case, why isn’t social skills in the top five? What are the top five?

        • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          3·
          2 days ago

          this thread was initially about how homelessness is the same thing as being single.

          I love this platform dude nowhere else will you find commenters so fundamentally incapable of understanding analogies

            • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
              1·
              2 days ago

              This one was a bad.

              How would you know? You thought they were saying homelessness is the same thing as being single lol

              • deaf_fish@midwest.socialEnglish
                1·
                2 days ago

                Wait, I think I see what you are getting at. Ok, so when I said:

                this thread was initially about how homelessness is the same thing as being single.

                This triggered you because you because it wasn’t 100% accurate. It should have been something more like this.

                this thread was initially about how homelessness is an analogy for being single.

                Ok, yeah, my wording wasn’t 100% clear there. Sorry for the mistake on my part.

                Either way it still is a bad analogy.

                • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
                  1·
                  2 days ago

                  No, it’s neither. They were drawing a similarity between the advice given in the post and the advice given in the video. That is, that it sounds obvious to people who say it, but it’s condescending and dismissive and in practice it doesn’t really help

                  • deaf_fish@midwest.socialEnglish
                    1·
                    2 days ago

                    So the video is just a girl saying “If your homeless, just buy a house” the video isn’t even giving out any tips.

                    So if OP was saying, “If your single, just get a partner”, then you would be correct. But they are not saying that. They are actually giving useful advice to someone who is new to dating and possibly looking for advice.

                    Am I wrong? If so, how?