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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue
to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence
No idea where you got that. But I do see a lot of fascists who alienate women as friends and partners, then grow resentful when they don’t receive “respect” they feel they deserve.
This can quickly escalate into stalking and further violence against family or ex-partners, unless other people intervene.
The idea that a violent misogynist shouldn’t be argued with or deterred, because their sense of superiority is more important than anyone else’s safety is what’s brought us to the modern fascist moment.
If “social anxiety” means lashing out at women in order to force them to comply with your demands?
Absolutely.
You know that’s not what I mean by social anxiety. Even the fact that you put it in quotation marks makes it sound like you don’t believe anxiety can be a genuine reason to have never dated. I have social anxiety. I am a man. I’ve never dated. Therefore, you will now assume I’m a fascist who hates women, stalks women, is violent towards women. You will also assume that my social anxiety (or “social anxiety”, as you say) is a lie, a cover for the way you assume I act.
I’m not making excuses for actual fascists or actual men who do the things you mentioned above. I am, however, against this idea that men who struggle dating MUST do those things because there’s, supposedly, no other explanation. Do the men you describe exist? Sure. Attacking any men not in a relationship is where I draw the line.