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when i first heard about the male loneliness epidemic i was like oh yeah close camaraderie and bonding between men is often discouraged in favor of competition or, if not discouraged, at least filtered through a lens of individualism that precludes deep connections. and then i learned what people meant by it (men arent getting laid) to which i say skill issue

to all the men out there not getting laid: try less hard to get laid and try more hard to be an enjoyable and relaxing presence

  • HugeNerd@lemmy.caEnglish
    53·
    2 days ago

    Getting laid is easy

    😵‍💫

    Sure, in your 20s, if that. Pray tell, kind sir, what is your secret?

    • Tattorack@lemmy.worldEnglish
      61·
      2 days ago

      Be born good looking and then go to places where shallow floozies with no personality hang out.

      I’ve had two roommates in the past (not at the same time) who both had a girl-of-the-week thing. They only used them for sex, and the women they slept with weren’t very… They weren’t the sharpest.

      Never once did they take anyone home who was intelligent or respectable. Probably because women like that have too much self-respect and good standards.

      They too told me it was easy to get laid. I was like… No thank you. I’m not missing out on anything meaningful.

      • AeroGlen@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        You may have missed out on the latest STDs. Girls with IQ > 100 are too busy to go to places where they can be targets by sex addicts. The truth is that IQ is distributed equally and men who show the behavior you describe are shallow themselves and deserve no better.

        • Tattorack@lemmy.worldEnglish
          3·
          2 days ago

          Oh for sure; one was a scientologist who was deliberately practicing charisma. Now he travels around the world selling the success of scientology with a perfect fake smile.

          The other spent waaaayyyyyyyy too much time looking at himself in the mirror. Figuratively, but also somewhat literally.

          Speaking of STDs, the latter guy refused to do sex with a condom. I told him he was an idiot for that; things could go wrong. You could accidently become a dad of a child you don’t want, or end up getting a permanent STD. He said I worry too much.

          Less than a week after that conversation he got gonorrhea for a whole month. I was smiling like the Cheshire cat the whole time.

    • Leonixster@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      106·
      2 days ago

      Treat people as human beings and respect their boundaries, take care of your health and appearance, then suddenly you’ll be drowning in pussy (or dick or both or neither whatever your preference)

      • gmtom@lemmy.worldEnglish
        9·
        2 days ago

        Cool i do all that but im still autisitc and have no charisma, do not get approached by anyone and dont approach others since i respect boundaries.

        • Mniot@programming.devEnglish
          4·
          2 days ago

          ASD can be a challenge, for sure. “dont approach others since i respect boundaries” is the thing you need to change: respecting boundaries doesn’t mean never talking to someone, it means allowing them to set boundaries.

          A simple way to do this is, “hi I’m gmtom. Mind if I sit here?” Sitting next to someone is generally understood as an invitation to talk.

          You could also try leaning into the ASD a little: “hi I’m gmtom and my special interest is arachnids. [smile, because you are making fun of yourself a little] Want to hear some neat facts about spiders?”

          However you introduce yourself, the way you respect boundaries is that when they say, “no.” You reply, “OK,” and leave.

          If you don’t feel confident about reading peoples’ body language, I would also try to check in every so often. Again, you can try owning the autism: “I’m autistic and can’t read your body language very well. Am I boring you or is this cool?” And again, respecting boundaries means you accept it if they say “I don’t want to talk anymore.”

          You will not succeed every time. Meeting people and making friends is a lot of work and takes practice (like: how much talking vs listening should you do? There’s no one correct answer, unfortunately). Charismatic people got a head start from their brain-types during childhood, but they are charismatic because they keep meeting and talking with new people to exercise their skills.

          • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
            91·
            2 days ago

            And go to the third places that either you can’t afford or don’t exist anymore. This shit reads like my grandparents giving me job seeking advice. Just walk in, give em a firm handshake, and you’ll be married in a month lmao