• leftzero@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    5 days ago

    Speaking as a disgusting fat bastard myself, feel free to criticise and mock me as much as you want.

    Maybe it’ll finally motivate me to do something about it.

    • PastafARRian@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      5 days ago

      Right, that’ll work.

      You’ll probably make more progress when you learn to accept and respect yourself. Losing a lot of weight is extraordinarily difficult and it’ll take as long or longer than the amount of time it took to put it on. You’ll have regressions and make mistakes. Your key will be neck breakingly slow but constant progress and being gentle on yourself, plus being surrounded by supportive people. I’m sorry you feel that you’re disgusting but I don’t.

      My mom lost 70 pounds and then gained back 20 in the last 5 years. That’s less than a pound per month, a 100 calorie deficit. She still eats a lot but I think that’s what makes her successful. She has a long way to go but I never forget to tell her she’s kicking ass because she is. You’d tell her that too. Now tell yourself.

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        4 days ago

        Everyone is different. For me, mockery was much more motivating. While it was not a good place, browsing r/FatPeopleHate was what got me to finally get in shape

        Lost it a lot faster than it took to get it, for the record

    • DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
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      4 days ago

      Self hate is approximately as good a motivator as ridicule, ie a negative one.

      Depression or whatever the damage is isn’t solved with more trauma.

      To start climbing out of your hole your first step is forgiving yourself for not being perfect.