Some call it a friendship recession: a time when close male friendships sink to their lowest. Here’s how friendships for straight men fall to the wayside – and what could bring them together
Our friend group sits at around 17. It ebbs and flows with girl/boyfriends coming and going (though mostly all married now). I hate to say it, but the key is low standards. We don’t all agree on anything. We don’t all have the same hobbies or even sense of humor. But we don’t kick each other out over stupid fights, and everyone is always welcome at everything. If you cut people out when they don’t agree with you, or when they screw up, your friendships disappear. You just have to treat it like family.
“i can have a bbq with you” is not what i would call “close friends”. A close friend is someone i can bitch to about my personal problems and trust him not to pass any of it on. A close friend is someone on whose couch i could crash in an emergency with little to no questions asked.
From your description i would have thought more of the first category, but maybe i am wrong and you all stick it out for each other like that. In this case props to you all and i hope it lasts.
Our friend group sits at around 17. It ebbs and flows with girl/boyfriends coming and going (though mostly all married now). I hate to say it, but the key is low standards. We don’t all agree on anything. We don’t all have the same hobbies or even sense of humor. But we don’t kick each other out over stupid fights, and everyone is always welcome at everything. If you cut people out when they don’t agree with you, or when they screw up, your friendships disappear. You just have to treat it like family.
“i can have a bbq with you” is not what i would call “close friends”. A close friend is someone i can bitch to about my personal problems and trust him not to pass any of it on. A close friend is someone on whose couch i could crash in an emergency with little to no questions asked.
From your description i would have thought more of the first category, but maybe i am wrong and you all stick it out for each other like that. In this case props to you all and i hope it lasts.
That doesn’t sound like low standards to me, sounds sane and inviting