I’ve lived with my wife for twelve years and we have two kids and I don’t think she’s ever managed to listen to any of the stuff I really love, because it’s just too heavy for her. And I’m not talking Lorna Shore here, I’m saying she gets all stressed out when she hears any short of bass drop.
I don’t think her brain was ever ready for metal, I’m pretty sure they don’t have anything like it in China.
Anyway, my point is, it still works because she doesn’t see music as a defining thing for herself, nor do I think of myself exclusively as a metalhead. She doesn’t hate me listening to metal, nor do I hate her listening to cheesy Taiwanese crooners from the eighties. She doesn’t try to change my tastes, nor impose hers.
I think that’s more important, actually. Not hating what the other person brings to the table. Sure it’s sad not to share a passion with the person you love, but it’s better than them trying to change you, or dismissing or denigrating what you love!
Now that would be a deal breaker.
I’ve lived with my wife for twelve years and we have two kids and I don’t think she’s ever managed to listen to any of the stuff I really love, because it’s just too heavy for her. And I’m not talking Lorna Shore here, I’m saying she gets all stressed out when she hears any short of bass drop.
I don’t think her brain was ever ready for metal, I’m pretty sure they don’t have anything like it in China.
Anyway, my point is, it still works because she doesn’t see music as a defining thing for herself, nor do I think of myself exclusively as a metalhead. She doesn’t hate me listening to metal, nor do I hate her listening to cheesy Taiwanese crooners from the eighties. She doesn’t try to change my tastes, nor impose hers.
I think that’s more important, actually. Not hating what the other person brings to the table. Sure it’s sad not to share a passion with the person you love, but it’s better than them trying to change you, or dismissing or denigrating what you love! Now that would be a deal breaker.