• exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        Controversy and debate about whether the condition exists for literal hostages in a violent/deadly situation is a step removed from talking about whether people become irrationally attached to manipulative romantic/sexual partners, and stay despite all rationality pointing towards leaving.

        I don’t know if Stockholm Syndrome exists for hostages held at gunpoint. But I do know that plenty of people have behaved irrationally about attachment to abusive people in their lives. And we don’t have to call that particular condition Stockholm Syndrome, but your argument doesn’t really disprove the topic of this discussion.

        • TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world
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          23 hours ago

          your argument doesn’t really disprove the topic of this discussion.

          Topic of Discussion

          I don’t know if Stockholm Syndrome exists for hostages held at gunpoint.

          Stockholm syndrome doesn’t require being held at gun point.

          The real issue is people behaving irrationally according to you. If you were in this situation, you would done the rational thing. Therefore, they must be irrational. They are, I’m part, to blame for their situation.

          But this is all predicted on your value system and not theirs. Stockholm syndrome doesn’t take into account their story and what convinced them to behave the way they did. It a heavy hand that decontextualizes events and removes victims agency. Accounting for these may still reveal something worth addressing for a smaller subset of victims who are trauma bonded, but it should patiently and diligently center and empower the voices of victims and not dismiss them as irrational

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      If he’s verbally abusive, violent, and keeps you locked up as a prisoner, he isn’t necessarily evil.

      You can change him! Just be patient, accept him, and love him!