now, i don’t know if it’s such a big deal, i’m (a trans man) just getting it “off my chest” (that’s why i posted here). i love my boyfriend, but sometimes i wish he talked more to me. i understand, though. he’s been struggling with mental health, but even when he says he’s happy, he barely has any time for me because he’s playing video games. he didn’t even want to put the game down to say hi to me or text me because he thought it was annoying to do so, so i told him i’d let him play the game. i understand he plays games when he’s bored or to cope with his life and depression, but he barely talks to me because that’s how much he loves video games. we talk a few times per day and he says stuff like that"hi, i love you" “you’re so handsome” but other than that, not really anything.

please be respectful, i don’t need a rant on how much i suck as a bf, i’m really trying to figure out what to do to help.

i reposted this to mental health because it’s kind of about his mental health struggles.

  • TheTimeKnife@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    27 days ago

    This is more of a face to face, or at least voice call conversation. Yeah it sucks interrupting his coping method, but it’s just not a split focus type conversation and sometimes you have to be a little uncomfortable during a difficult conversation. He can’t really opt out of it either by ignoring it. It’s a conversation about his behavior and how it impacted you. If you want, you can let him know you need to talk and schedule it. Some people do better with time to emotionally prepare. You can do this, it’s always harder to get started than keep it going on these things. If he literally has no time in the foreseeable future to talk to his partner about something important to them, he doesn’t really have time for a relationship. Nobodies patience is endless, and you shouldn’t hold it against yourself if you find your limit.