Tbf, every time I’ve choked a girl during sex it’s because they directly asked me using their words of their own volition (I never brought it up like asking her can I do it or anything), and I asked “are you sure” and they double down on the consent, and typically they’ll use their hand to press my hand harder into their neck because I’m scared to go too hard. And also I’ve never domestically abused anyone (been the victim of emotional abuse though, not physical, unless you count using emotional abuse to force me to have sex physical then I guess I have been but idk.)

Point is: there are women who are into that. Seemingly a lot, actually. It’s not necessarily a red flag against me that I’m willing to please my partner (so long as there’s some mutual trust, I have said no before too when it was a first time with a hook up, for instance.)