Fair point. Like I said I know I’m not perfect. Believe me I understand addiction. That said, there must come a day when you decide you are no longer going to do a thing. You can wean all you want, but one day you are a smoker and one day you are not. It doesn’t need to be more complicated than that. Yes it will suck, but your addiction has put your comfort on a credit card. That bill needs to be paid. You will be uncomfortable but that’s the price.
You don’t want to help your wife to make it easier. Instead, you apply more pressure, which makes it even harder to stop. That shows that you have an understanding of addiction that reflects the shit from TV series in the 80s and 90s.
This is not the support i would expect from a spouse or a friend, she might be better off without you if this reflects your everyday behavior towards her. There is nothing more to say.
You know, I never considered it before but you really have opened my eyes. My marriage is a sham. I’m going to talk to her tonight about dissolving the relationship. I can’t believe I’ve been so blind. Thank you for being the light in the darkness. Maybe now we can both begin to heal.
Fair point. Like I said I know I’m not perfect. Believe me I understand addiction. That said, there must come a day when you decide you are no longer going to do a thing. You can wean all you want, but one day you are a smoker and one day you are not. It doesn’t need to be more complicated than that. Yes it will suck, but your addiction has put your comfort on a credit card. That bill needs to be paid. You will be uncomfortable but that’s the price.
You don’t want to help your wife to make it easier. Instead, you apply more pressure, which makes it even harder to stop. That shows that you have an understanding of addiction that reflects the shit from TV series in the 80s and 90s.
This is not the support i would expect from a spouse or a friend, she might be better off without you if this reflects your everyday behavior towards her. There is nothing more to say.
You know, I never considered it before but you really have opened my eyes. My marriage is a sham. I’m going to talk to her tonight about dissolving the relationship. I can’t believe I’ve been so blind. Thank you for being the light in the darkness. Maybe now we can both begin to heal.