I like how lemm.ee didn’t defederated very many people and maintained a chill vibe in terms of moderation.
What instances have similar vibe?
Edit: I been looking into it and seems that an instance with a similar outlook on federation and not full of power tripping admins censoring is hilariouschaos.com
For Reddit-like forums, The/Brain/Bin (Mbin) and Ani.Social (Lemmy) both seem pretty chill too, and also not defederating with a lot of people. Still looking for a Piefed instance, though that I am doing very slowly.