I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years. I want to surprise her by proposing to her and being all fancy for our hangout soon, but I don’t want to move too fast. 3 years should be fine, right??

Anyway, I’ll tell you how it goes!!

  • boobs_@lemmy.world
    30·
    5 days ago

    Have you two talked about marriage before? Are your long-term goals compatible? I’m of the philosophy that totally spontaneous proposals generally aren’t a great idea unless certain important things are already known.

    If you have talked about those things, then yeah go for it.

    • Wendy@lemmy.mlOP
      161·
      5 days ago

      A lot. We both want to move to possibly Japan together and get married. My family loves her and her family loves me.

      I would not propose unless we talked about it, but she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.

      • BrotherL0v3@lemmy.world
        19·
        5 days ago

        she says often that she hopes we get married and that she wants to marry me.

        That seems like a green light to me.

        • Wendy@lemmy.mlOP
          9·
          5 days ago

          I still can’t tell if she’s into me even though she asked me to marry her! Maybe she just is looking for someone to marry!! That’s all

      • Amy@lemmy.sdf.org
        7·
        5 days ago

        Err, just be aware that Japan does not (currently) recognize same-sex marriage, although some local governments offer unofficial perks to couples. That should change with the pending supreme court case, but the government has a history of dragging its feet on things it really doesn’t want to address.

        Other than that it’s pretty awesome here :3

        • Wendy@lemmy.mlOP
          4·
          4 days ago

          Aaa, to be fair, she lives in Spain. I wish they did recognize it in her home country though! Maybe when we go to Japan, they’ll recognize it or we get married in the U.S or Spain or something

      • Windex007@lemmy.world
        6·
        5 days ago

        That sounds solid.

        That being said I do recommend living together before deciding if you wanna get married. Whole swathes of compatibility aren’t really explored until you’re living together.

        Not saying you shouldn’t propose if you aren’t living together, though.