• Qkall@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      just to be a bit of a devil that advocates thingies, i lost my pooch a bit ago and my family asked when they could get me a new pup. i told them i needed time and maybe around my upcoming bday. so, i think if its been discussed in some fashion… i think it okays.

      but i do understand the overall point and i don’t disagree - surprise pets tend to be a bad move.

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        Pets should never be a surprise for sure. Having an idea that you’ve got one coming and being willing to take care of it is another story altogether

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      I mean I see were you are going but if they already wanted and you confirmed, like if the kid has wanted it and you are the parent or you talked with their parents, etc… it’s not that crazy.

      I mean maybe I would go and make a gift card or something saying they can get it as a presen and if they are ok with it you then get it, ideally adopting of course.

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        Paying for something someone wants isn’t the same as a surprise gift.

        A parent buying a pet for their kids is actually a parent buying a pet for themselves; the parents very well know the pet is ultimately their responsibility.

        I don’t think anyone is saying to not do those things. It’s the surprise of a pet that is heinous.

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          1 year ago

          Can still be a surprise that they want it doesn’t mean they expect it.

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      Agreed. Even assuming you know the person wants a pet and can handle a pet, you’re still robbing them of choice in what pet they get. The poodle is cute and all, but little timmy really would’ve preferred a border collie.

      Pretty much the only scenario I can agree with gifting a pet is if you know they want one, know they can handle one, and finally when it comes to the actual gift giving, it starts off with a trip to the animal shelter so they can pick their own companion.