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Had a medical appointment where the tech referred to me as a “good girl” and a “sweet girl” several times. I felt pretty great that day 💖
It is a bit amusing how ironic it is that conservative places are also some of the most accidentally gender-affirming. The South seems like a place you are far more likely to get terms of endearment like good / sweet girl, darling, sweetie, honey, dear, and so on.
When I first started getting these, I didn’t realize it meant I was passing, I primarily thought it signaled confusion about my age.
So I get why cis women would be quite upset about being called these terms, they are infantilizing in a way men never experience, and a clear example of sexism and the way women and femininity are taken as non-serious, like a child might be.
But I never had a childhood where these terms applied to me, and pretty quickly I learned being called these terms meant the person genuinely saw me as a woman (maybe a young woman, but not a trans woman). So for the most part, I love it when these Southern women affirm me and call me by cute endearing terms like “sweet girl”, I just overlook the sexism and bask in the affirmation / ewphoria. 🥰