As the title says, do you have any tips and tricks that you think are good for dealing with sudden outbursts of Dysphoria, so you dont feel like shit until you fall asleep (at least that’s when the Dysphoria ends for me usually).
As the title says, do you have any tips and tricks that you think are good for dealing with sudden outbursts of Dysphoria, so you dont feel like shit until you fall asleep (at least that’s when the Dysphoria ends for me usually).
Dandelion, have you ever considered writing professionally? You answer so many questions with thoughtful, insightful, and exquisite prose. A “transition experiences guide” or a memoir from you would make for a delightful read.
Also, I definitely needed to read this comment today. I spent the day boymoding and doing home renovation and it was unpleasantly dysphoric. I am not intending to be misogynistic, because there are plenty of women around me absolutely nailing the homeowner thing, but standing on a ladder getting caulk in my fingernails and forcing a hammer drill into a wall is not my idea of a good time.
ha, I think you’re too kind 😅 I’m glad you are finding my comments helpful 🥰
While I haven’t ever seriously considered writing professionally, I have also never felt like I have anything to write that I thought fit a commercial purpose. Reading Julia Serano and Mia Violet have made me feel like I don’t have much to add, others have already covered it.
I think of myself more like a Wikipedia editor than an author, if that makes sense - someone in the background who wants to help make information more accessible, digestible, etc. - but not necessarily someone who has had any unique perspective that I feel the world is missing.
And I feel you on the home renovations, I couldn’t find anyone to fix some water damage in a bathroom after demolition and remediation happened, so I ended up teaching myself and doing all the construction myself - this occurred right in the middle of my social transition, and re-occupying that masculine role was very dysphoria inducing.
Nowadays when I’m engaging in projects that make me feel masculine like that, I like to do things that make me feel femme, like putting my hair up in a ponytail, wearing a busty / tight-fitting tank-top and tight jeans that emphasize by butt - that all definitely helps ground me a little in my femininity. The work is physical and invokes the body, so efforts to help me re-interpret that body in those movements really seem to help. Sometimes I can even feel proud of myself as a woman for the hard work I’m doing, rather than my old thinking that this kind of labor is expected of me because of my perceived gender.