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  • El Barto@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.worldWhat is your opinion on ghosting?
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    23 hours ago

    Naaaah, if you have five people in a year texting you over and over demanding your attention, then getting even more texts when you reply with “yo don’t text me again,” you’ll learn to ghost very quickly.

    I’m not saying that’s everyone’s experience. But understand that not everyone does it for the pleasure of dehumanizing.


  • Uh sure. Texts allow you to respond whenever you are free. But if you don’t want to, you don’t have to. My free time is my own for me to use in any way I please. And if I don’t want to reply to anyone in particular during my free time, no one should judge me for that. I’ll reply to you when I want to. That’s why it’s asynchronous communication. Need something more immediate? Call. Visit. Or try texting again (but don’t send a barrage of texts.)




  • I don’t take ghosting from women too personally. It still stings, but I understand. I’ve heard horror stories of men who will think of any response, even if it’s “fuck off, leave me alone!” as a chance. So ghosting is the way to go in these circumstances.

    The woman doesn’t know if I’m one of those men. So again, if I’m ghosted, I try to shrug it off and move on.

    A friend, though? They’d better tell me they were in a coma or something. Otherwise they can fuck right off.