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  • I always overestimate a maga’s ability to read or hear things that are actually said. I keep giving them the benefit of the doubt. I keep being hopeful. And then promptly let down.

    EG: Always expect the people on jubilee actually researched their own question with the idea they accurately quoted the problem they actually have with the previous dem governments.

    Almost without fail: Then the person answers and EVERY TIME they are correcting a misheard quote that the right are trying to morph into the argument they want to have.

    And then the right side panel comes in as a double down on how woefully off the mark the right are.

    I mean I get it, they are frustrated. And most have reason to be but it takes so much to get to the rub. they seem heavily distracted from discussing what their real problems are and it takes these patient people to decompress the fact out of it to address the real problem.

    EG this woman had an issue with a doctor. Felt ignored. Was ignored. Blamed the left. Misquoted a bunch of stuff that she had been programmed to say. Watched a doctor deconstruct it for her during jubilee just so she could actually be heard regarding a problem that affects both the left and the right.

    It took all that.

    Just seems right politics are about distracting frustrated people just to use them. And it’s really fricken sad.



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    5 days ago

    Whenever someone says a person who isn’t eating the thing I’m making has an opinion I’m like ‘good thing I’m not feeding it to them’

    Like cmon. if someone makes something they like and I’m not there to eat it/they aren’t making it for me, they shouldn’t give a hoot what I think. More power to them. Why and how even is this an argument ever anyways.










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    7 days ago

    Absolutely. For sure. I’ve seen it once in my life. The alcoholic got help, It was one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve ever grown through with someone. It was then I learned as much as it’s an area of effect disease, it has an area of affect of growth with the person in recovery. And I learned a great deal of compassion for what they learned about themselves and their struggle - In their case they were self medicating because in their youth ADHD and dyslexia was not treated.

    I mean ngl, it would have been great to not have their abusive alcoholism imposed on me in the first place as a child.

    But I can’t hang onto resentment about that, cuz I can’t undo the past, I can’t undo what they did and they came through in the end anyways. I’m capable of forgiving and compassion that they are just another human with struggles getting frustrated about being abandoned.





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    7 days ago

    the action of being an addict is very selfish. And I have no doubt some alcoholics or other types of addicts are narcissistic. Often alcoholics are self medicating for another issue such as depression which might fit a different mental reason.

    For our sake and purpose here : Results are the same. Still impacts the family just as much with a selfish action.

    Just if we were to peel off from this and look at what drives them and how they might try to fix themselves might be a different approach cuz what they are masking can be various illnesses.


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    7 days ago

    Projecting personal dialogue onto others doesn’t make you a messiah.

    If someone doesn’t like what you’re doing to them, and you know it’s making them uncomfortable and you even go as far as to tout it to shame them and give it an excuse “oh they don’t like having their thoughts said out loud”, you are doing what an abuser does. Minimize their victims. You don’t even allow them to defend themselves. This is abusive behaviour.

    Asserting that peoples behaviors are intrinsically violent can also be a violent means of communication

    Abusers also try to turn tables and call themselves a victim at the moment someone calls out their abusive behavior.