Thanks for the kind words/wishes yesterday, and low for reaching out
I just want to clarify in case I’ve sent the weekly message, I’m okay. Well I’m about 30% okay, but I’ll get through it.
I left because over the last few months I’ve really just felt like a burden pretty much any time I say anything. It’s not entirely because of what I say, but I think more often because I realise that everyone else, whether here or not, has much larger issues, while I’m off complaining about minor things in approximately 7,000 worse per comment. I tried to fix that by cutting down on what I say, how often I’m here, and by trying to help other people when I could, or otherwise try and be openly empathetic (I used to hold off because I thought that “aw I’m sorry such and such is happening to you. Hope it stops happening soon!” sounded too much like a hollow statement, despite finding it very helpful when people would reply to my troubles similarly). But usually I ended up figuring out a way to make it about me, which was pretty awful of me, and I almost deleted my account a few weeks ago when I realised. But I took a little break instead
The break doesn’t seem to have helped, I think I’m just genuinely shit at anything that’s not a 1 sided dialogue. I hate that, and to be honest, kind of despise myself for it. Probably a side effect of not having many friends when I was younger so not developing proper social skills, and being in care for so long, where everything very much is one sided and hollow. But in any case, it’s a deficit that I realise I have, and can’t seem to be able to fix. But I think because of that, I’m not a very good person to interact with, so until I do work it out, I just don’t think I do anyone any good being around here
But I do sincerely appreciate the help and advice everybody here had given me. You are all amazing people, and I’m sorry for the troubles I’ve caused
I’ll be back one day, but I don’t think I should come back until I know I can do better. I actually think that may come naturally once I move out and into an environment more conducive to good mental helath
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I was just lurking and seeing if anyone else got screwed over with the CommBank kerfuffle this morning and saw this. Figured I should try and help
I have no clue what happened or why she isn’t on her Aussie zone account anymore, but she made a new account on Lemmy.world called lady_seagoon (which I think she’s deleted now). Lemmy.world is currently suffering from ~7 day delays (i.e: nothing posted from a lemmy.world account will be visible here for a week or more). So nobody was replying to her posts or comments. This is because of the way Lemmy is built and Nath/lodion not wanting to invest the effort implement a fix, but that’s a separate discussion
She then tried to subscribe from this community from her Lemmy World account, but when you subscribe to a community on another instance (in this case an Aussie zone community from an LW account), it will sometimes show subscribe pending. Why it does that isn’t really important, but it’s not because of an approval system or anything like that. It’s just trying send that subscription confirmation if you will, over to AZ (which remember has a 7 day transit time before it arrives and processes)
She’s best off logging back into her main account, but I’m guessing she forgot her password and didn’t provide an email or something, in which case she can just choose a new username. Maybe “Seagoon__” or something, and all will be well. She’ll have to be approved by Nath or lodion (because new accounts on AZ require approval by an admin). She could make an account on another instance (that is NOT LW), but it’s really just easiest to make one on AZ.
To simplify what’s happening, since Aussie zone is based in Australia, and Lemmy World is in Finland, you could think of it as Lemmy World sending every comment in a letter via boat. It’s gonna take a while to arrive, a week in this case. Now we don’t have the same issues, so you could think of us as sending comments and things by plane. The net result is that from LW you can see what’s happening on Aussie zone in real time, but they can’t see your responses, upvotes, comments, posts, etc for a week.
(It’s caused by issues in Lemmy’s code, not actually because we have a faster connection or anything. It was requested that Nath or lodion implement a fix in the meantime, but they didn’t want to, so it’s going to be like this until that bug is remedied, hopefully soon)