I feel like kinks ought to be private anyway. Sharing them feels intimate in a way that is a violation of shared civil spaces. What people do in private doesn’t bother me in the slightest, but if your kink requires making me uncomfortable by telling me what you’re into, I have every right to decline to be a part of your sexual gratification.

To be clear, I’m not talking about LGBTQ+ communities or people who like to wear revealing clothing. That’s not a kink. But if you’re dressed like a puppy and being led around on a leash with a visible erection, then you should be a little bit ashamed for involving me without my consent. There are private spaces for private conversations and private activities. I should be able to ride the bus without getting jizzed on by a masturbating homeless man.