My honest opinion. The right pipeline is meeting boys where they are. The left needs to stop pontificating about shit and get on their level.
It’s no different than the fact that the education system as it’s been designed is easier for girls to navigate than boys. Look at post-secondary attendance by gender over time.
This is a problem that has been brewing for decades and we have done nothing to stop it and the right wing despite all their faults are actually engaging these boys where they are.
If you are a parent. Hell if you are a mother, you should be scared as shit at how your sons are checking out of society writ large.
I’m a 48 year old dude with 3 kids. My daughter will be fine. My boys on the other hand? I’m doing my best to make sure they’re adjusted and successful but it’s exceedingly hard.
The down votes on your comment are a head scratcher. No matter what you as a parent (or even young men commenting in this thread) say, that perspective is shouted down as manosphere brainwash propaganda.
It’s almost like retrograde toxic masculinity. Vulnerable young dudes trying to explain why left messaging makes them uncomfortable are being told to man up/grow up/get over it.
anytime the left is criticized by a man, they just scream at you and insult you. they don’t value any input as to why men don’t listen to them anymore.
and if you ask the left what a man is to do… they tell you to fuck off and figure it out, or they just espouse traditional values of masculinity… but also saying how they are wrong and bad and ‘problematic’ those trad values are. the left has no positive agenda for men because it sees me as inherently bad until proven otherwise by their hypocritical values. they just want you to be a traditional man who gives your money to leftist causes, and attributes the struggles and suffering of minorities to systemic issues, but the struggles of men are never systematic. if a man is struggle it’s entire his own personal fault and what he should do is shut up and give his money to people who have it worse than he does.
it’s simple. the left offers young men nothing other than shame and harassment. so why would they want to deal with that? the right at least gives them a goal to strive for and actually acknowledges their problems aren’t their fault.
they are checking out of society because society offers them no reward anymore.
there is no point in be a part of it when you can’t own a home, can’t find a wife, and can’t have kids. all of that has been priced out of the market for any guy who isn’t in the top 10% of income/wealth. average men has no chance at any of that anymore. and they see that and they are attracted to the right because the right says ‘you can and should have those things’ the left says ‘you don’t deserve them’.
I think you’re hitting some good points, but the thing we need to teach these boys is that they shouldn’t be looking towards society for rewards. Society’s rewards have become a gamified rat race, so the way out is men to look inward. Not gonna lie though, that’s easier said than done…
right, let me sit around on my ass and look inwards, while my costs go up faster than my salary.
surely that will fix things.
the fact you think men need to look inwards tells me you come from a position of massive privledge and wealth. those of us who have had to struggle to pay bills, and feared being homeless don’t care about ‘looking inward’ we care about not being broke.
most young men can’t afford their bills dude. no amount of inward emotional work is going to fix that. and they are being told to fuck off for even daring to ask that maybe if they work hard the yshould be able to afford the basics of a life. a home, a family, healthcare, security and community.
and all those things are actively being denied to them by the world. college grad can’t even afford to live with roommates anymore because rents are so high and wages are so low. how is a 24 year old guy ilving at home making 35K a year supposed to feel? while the left endlessly shits on him what a loser he is for not makign 250K a year.
My honest opinion. The right pipeline is meeting boys where they are. The left needs to stop pontificating about shit and get on their level.
It’s no different than the fact that the education system as it’s been designed is easier for girls to navigate than boys. Look at post-secondary attendance by gender over time.
This is a problem that has been brewing for decades and we have done nothing to stop it and the right wing despite all their faults are actually engaging these boys where they are.
If you are a parent. Hell if you are a mother, you should be scared as shit at how your sons are checking out of society writ large.
I’m a 48 year old dude with 3 kids. My daughter will be fine. My boys on the other hand? I’m doing my best to make sure they’re adjusted and successful but it’s exceedingly hard.
In what way is the education system easier for girls to navigate? That doesn’t make sense to me at all.
The down votes on your comment are a head scratcher. No matter what you as a parent (or even young men commenting in this thread) say, that perspective is shouted down as manosphere brainwash propaganda.
It’s almost like retrograde toxic masculinity. Vulnerable young dudes trying to explain why left messaging makes them uncomfortable are being told to man up/grow up/get over it.
anytime the left is criticized by a man, they just scream at you and insult you. they don’t value any input as to why men don’t listen to them anymore.
and if you ask the left what a man is to do… they tell you to fuck off and figure it out, or they just espouse traditional values of masculinity… but also saying how they are wrong and bad and ‘problematic’ those trad values are. the left has no positive agenda for men because it sees me as inherently bad until proven otherwise by their hypocritical values. they just want you to be a traditional man who gives your money to leftist causes, and attributes the struggles and suffering of minorities to systemic issues, but the struggles of men are never systematic. if a man is struggle it’s entire his own personal fault and what he should do is shut up and give his money to people who have it worse than he does.
it’s simple. the left offers young men nothing other than shame and harassment. so why would they want to deal with that? the right at least gives them a goal to strive for and actually acknowledges their problems aren’t their fault.
they are checking out of society because society offers them no reward anymore.
there is no point in be a part of it when you can’t own a home, can’t find a wife, and can’t have kids. all of that has been priced out of the market for any guy who isn’t in the top 10% of income/wealth. average men has no chance at any of that anymore. and they see that and they are attracted to the right because the right says ‘you can and should have those things’ the left says ‘you don’t deserve them’.
How come every fucking time. Every. Fucking. Time. Every time y’all talk about “men’s issues” you talk about “how difficult it is to find a wife”
Get. Your. Own. Shit. Together. First. Then you “find a wife”
And what does “finding a wife” have to do with money? How are you “priced out of” finding a wife? “Cause all women are golddiggers” or what?
And never fucking ever has the left said “you don’t deserve to start a family”
You know what, my dude? Vote MAGA. You deserve it
I think you’re hitting some good points, but the thing we need to teach these boys is that they shouldn’t be looking towards society for rewards. Society’s rewards have become a gamified rat race, so the way out is men to look inward. Not gonna lie though, that’s easier said than done…
I recently wrote a post too that touches on this topic: https://philosophyofbalance.com/blog/the-emancipation-of-men/
right, let me sit around on my ass and look inwards, while my costs go up faster than my salary.
surely that will fix things.
the fact you think men need to look inwards tells me you come from a position of massive privledge and wealth. those of us who have had to struggle to pay bills, and feared being homeless don’t care about ‘looking inward’ we care about not being broke.
most young men can’t afford their bills dude. no amount of inward emotional work is going to fix that. and they are being told to fuck off for even daring to ask that maybe if they work hard the yshould be able to afford the basics of a life. a home, a family, healthcare, security and community.
and all those things are actively being denied to them by the world. college grad can’t even afford to live with roommates anymore because rents are so high and wages are so low. how is a 24 year old guy ilving at home making 35K a year supposed to feel? while the left endlessly shits on him what a loser he is for not makign 250K a year.