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    11 months ago

    Call me out if you think this is bullshit.

    Relative to the feudal conception of sex only after marriage as the acceptable form of relations to have (not that people didn’t get around before then), I’d say that it is an improvement to protestant/catholic traditional forms of relations. Various forms of birth control unburdened women the full consequences of free sex.

    I suspect that the “free love” movement was kind of a movement for white petite bourgeoisie to just use social justice as a meme to have sex with alot of women. The new term is “sex positivity”, but sometimes that really is just encouraging sexual relationships over relationships that actually promote commitment. I don’t know to what extent this is intentionally promoting people to spend money on dating apps, memes to pretend to be the ideals of masculinity/feminitity over to seduce, but over time the mask slips. This results in therapy. This results in marriages of unhappy people or children without both parents. This produces more miserable people to create more gears for the capitalist machine to keep on running. All of these things cost money to the people and promote GDP growth. Promoting animosity between men and women and rightfully seeing each other as deceitful creates conflict to obscure class relations. Not all people buy into this bullshit but this way of thinking seems to create dysfunctional relationships.

    I suspect we should build institutions that can take feminism seriously and encourage relationships that nurture both parties in more complex ways than just sexual ways. This does not mean we fully conform back to the old ways that are trans/homophobic. We can recognize what works in relationships for most people but we don’t need to alienate all of the outliers either. Mental healthcare for all would be a boon for everyone in the society.