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Alternatively:
“What’s your name again?”
“T*********”
"Sorry, what?*
“Ti********”
😐“Nice to meet you Timberly”
Anyone do a thing where to remember the name you mentally attach them to someone you already know. Then right on cue you can remember the link but not the name of the family member you linked them to.
I find that repeating someones name after they introduce themselves greatly helps with remembering it.
Yep, ‘I’m Steve’, ‘Steve? hi Steve, nice to meet you’ is exactly what I do and it helps.
“(Okay. Okay, okay, okay, here goes.) Hey, I’m so sorry, I’m so very bad with names, what’s yours again? (Gawd that was awful, but it’s over, we did it, I’m so proud of us, we overcame our fear and… FUCK what did they say?!)”
And then a year goes by and you still can’t remember, so you give up and just say “hey there”
…“Sorry, I meant what’s your second name? Of course I knew your first name Gary! You’re so silly Gary”
Sigh… more often that I could admit
I once had an acquaintance/friend for 4 years who told me their name when we first met. I immediately forgot it of course but managed to avoid referring to them by name the whole time and I only found out what it was again when I told them I was moving overseas and they gave me contact details to reach them after I moved. So funny suddenly achieving that 4 year long goal of one day figuring out what they were called like that. Of course, I lost the contact details and forgot their name immediately after that but on the day I was able to thank them using their name for the first time in years and it felt very satisfying.
I have a fun thing. I’ll meet a new coworker. Let’s call her Sara. I learn her name after a few days and say, “Hi Sara!” when I see them in the halls.
One day, I’m at the mall. This random person says, “Hi Kekahi!” And I say, “Hi… you!” It’s Sara.
They were out of place! I cannot be expected to recognize someone if I see them in a place where I don’t usually see them. That’s asking too much!
I think this is not just an ADHD trait.
There are no traits exclusive to ADHD. Even executive dysfunction isn’t completely unique to ADHD…
The internets obsession with ADHD is annoying. No not everything is ADHD.
Not everything is ADHD, but ADHD does affect brain functions which are common to most humans.
It doesn’t give us a distinctive blue head or hot dogs for fingers, it manifests in subtle ways. Hence the post.
Seems like a bit of crap thing to come out with in a specifically ADHD group; why are you here?
Because not everything is ADHD?
Can alcoholics blame everything they do on alcohol? No.
Are you a unlikable person because you’re depressed? No.
Are you less than a human bean because you don’t drive? No.Who you are is not defined because of those.
I’m just saying. Not everything you do is because of ADHD.
No one is saying it is.
But seriously: the majority of people have problems remembering names. You just have to become comfortable with the fact and maybe apologize upfront. People are not only understandable but relieved (because they too forgot your name while you were vocalizing it).