• ulterno@programming.dev
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    13 hours ago

    When I say “leave me alone”, I mean:

    • don’t come up to my table when I am studying, snatch what I am working on and run away…
    • don’t bang/kick on my door when you only intend to run away…
    • don’t steal stuff from my bag/locker/whatever container legally marked as mine…
    • don’t, when you randomly see me walking on the road, minding my own business, come and beat me up or try to frame me for some random crime that you made up…

    … just to then say, “oh! I’m just trying to make friends”.

    If that is how you (whoever that is) make friends, leave me alone. I don’t want to be made into your “friend”.

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      13 hours ago

      I don’t think I’ve encountered any of those behaviors, except maybe rarely in like middle school. Those are not healthy, prosocial behaviors, nor are they commonplace.

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        12 hours ago

        not healthy, prosocial behaviors, nor are they commonplace

        Of course they aren’t.
        But you require that kind of experience to create a person that would go “leave me alone” with the pitiful tone of someone who has had to decrease their expectations from life more than what is commonplace.


        And of course, even for a middle-schooler, that won’t be enough.
        On top of that you will require that whenever they were to try to complain to the teacher about it, they then would have to be told off instead of being helped. Because you are “not supposed to study in the study room during the afternoon rest time”, even though you will not get to sleep either, because others are wrestling around in the dormitory.